A love at first sight wedding a horrible thought? Where’s the romance in that?
My mom and my niece, the flower girl, in shades of pink dresses my mom made.
My own wedding was a “planned ahead when everything fell through and ended up last minute” type of wedding. My husband to be didn’t mind it at all, saying as long as it was the two of us, nothing else mattered. His mother who seemed okay in March when we planned it, fell terribly ill a few days after. The wedding was scheduled for July 23, invitations printed but thankfully not sent. We had a couple of days notice so crossed out the 2 and had the wedding on July 3 instead.
All of you thinking that was not “kosher” are probably right, but my fiancé’s mother was dying and there was no thought of what was considered proper, just a need to be done with the ceremony. The 3rd of July that year was the hottest day on record for years, hot and humid. Luckily the invited guests were able to make it, and I had already purchased a dress. My mother and my aunt made a beautiful cake, busily trying to keep it from melting in the process. No air conditioning in those days so I stayed in my bathing suit till I had to dress in a lengthy, long sleeved lace gown.
A small church, reception in a cool basement and all the necessities done, such as cutting the cake, throwing the bouquet, necessities only. I remember it as a good day with high hopes to see my new motherinlaw. We did make it to see her but she passed away a few days later.
I am amazed at all the hoopla that occurs in weddings these days. So much money and effort and stress on everyone when it’s not about that. It’s about two people who love each other. Anything else is as useful as cake icing. (Of course that is just my opinion.)