I only put some of his post here. Please check out the whole blog post at the address above.
“I can understand if this were some rare ailment that we barely hear about. That would make sense that people would have to be made aware of it. But next to lung cancer, breast cancer is the second-leading killer of women in the United States.
The second-leading killer of women in the United States. That hurts to even think about.
Yet, many of us still need to be made “aware” of it?
MEN, this is mostly for many of you.
In terms of “awareness,” I think WE need to do a better job of helping the ladies out with this. I didn’t share my friend’s post earlier this morning looking for brownie points. I did so because I felt a responsibility to do so. We cannot treat this as a “woman’s issue.”
This affects ALL of us.
We ALL have women in our lives. That alone should contribute to us wanting to learn more and to encourage the women who mean the most to us to get checked out. To continue to perform those self-exams. To make breast health a priority.
But in order to do that, we must show them that it is a priority in OUR lives as well. Don’t leave them alone to fend for themselves when it comes to this. Women are not helpless by any means, but we have to show them that it means just as much to us as it does them. It should.
There have even been stories out there where breasts lumps have been caught (and thankfully treated), during sexual activity. Don’t laugh at that; that’s not meant to be a joke. Hey, I’m not trying to ruin your flow. But if you’re gettin’ on with the get on and you feel something that doesn’t feel right or if any doubt occurs in your mind, SPEAK UP. Please. Don’t be ashamed. As I just said, there are stories where this was the ONLY way this was caught. I know it’s hard (no pun intended) to stop once you get so far into it, but when you think about what could happen if you don’t speak up and it ends up being something. That should be enough to get you to say something.
Always better to check and not need to than to not check and…WISH. YOU. HAD.
In general, I don’t care much for the idea of “Men’s Health” and “Women’s Health.” I wish that health was a concern for EVERYONE. That means that “women’s health” is “OUR health” and vice versa.
Don’t get me wrong. I get the concept. They are separate like this to highlight the issues that mostly strike men OR women. But often times, I feel like each gender cares only about the issues of their own.
Whenever I hear about a disorder or disease of some kind, however rare it is, I look it up. Mainly because of my abnormal curiosity, but also because it may be something that strikes me or someone close to me. I can’t expect everyone to do like me on the rare stuff, but it’s sad to me that breast cancer isn’t something that more of us care about BEFORE it hits close to home.
I understand that not talking about it doesn’t mean that a person doesn’t care. I just think that we as men have to take the first step and let our ladies (figuratively, not possessively) know that they don’t have to fight this alone and this is not “us against them” (for lack of a more appropriate expression).
I fuss to my wife all the time about getting checkups and checking herself out. As she just turned 40 last year (I will pay for that later on), I worry about her even more, so I’m proud to be, as she lovingly calls me, a “nagging sitcom wife” (long story) to make sure she puts herself in the best position possible and is on top of this.
So guys, help me out here…when you see women talk about this, let’s give our support. Let’s share their posts. Let’s talk to them about it. Go to the women who may be in “perfect” health and you know…give them a friendly reminder to get checked out. To check themselves out.
Now, unless you are married or dating, DO NOT offer to “check them out” yourselves (SOMEBODY was thinking it). But in all seriousness, let them know we care and breast health is important to us also.
And remember…WE as men can get breast cancer also. Remember Rod Roddy of the “The Price is Right”? That is tragically how we lost him.”